Top 3 Tips for Successful Room-Sharing
There is a common misconception around "sleep training" that requires you to move your baby OUT of your room. This is FALSE. You CAN sleep train a baby while they are in your room still — just not in your bed.
I often get asked what my most common room sharing tips are, so I've compiled a list with my top three.
Make sure your baby has their own sleep space.This is huge. Ensure that your baby has either a playard, a crib, or a bassinet to sleep in. When we teach babies independent sleep skills, we need to give them a space where they can feel comfortable. Think of yourself when you sleep in a hotel. Sometimes the bed is super comfy, but even if you have a good, long sleep, you don't ever actually feel as rested as you should be.
Why is this? Science tells us this is because HALF OF YOUR BRAIN literally DOESN'T SHUT OFF if you're sleeping in an unfamiliar sleep space. So why would we expect our babes to sleep great if we're constantly changing up their sleep space? Pick a spot and stick with it! (I vote crib!)
Create a barrier between you and your baby.This is important especially if your child is notorious for waking up too many times throughout the night. When we teach babies independent sleep skills, and they wake up in the night, it's best if they aren't seeing their favorite person (YOU) immediately. (Many little ones have FOMO big-time!)
I recommend putting a sheet up to block their immediate view of you or check out the Slumberpod as an amazing room-sharing resource. Keep in mind, the Slumberpod will fit standard playards and mini-cribs, but not full-size cribs (and use discount code: midnightmama for $10 off your purchase at checkout).
Sound Machine & Darkness!I feel like a broken record when I talk about sound machines and blackout curtains, but they are legitimate!! USE THEM! Especially if you are room sharing.
I'm just throwing darts here — but I'm guessing you don't want to be going to bed at 7 pm with your baby every night? lol. ME EITHER.
That's why a sound machine and blackout curtains are a blessing from above. Turn that noise up (but keep it about 6 feet away from the crib) and then you don't have to worry about waking your baby up every time you open the door to sneak into bed yourself.
According to the American Academy of Paediatrics, babies should sleep in their parents’ room—but not in the same bed—for at least the first six months of life, ideally for the whole year, to reduce the risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) by as much as 50 percent.
Exactly why room-sharing dramatically lowers the likelihood of SIDS is still unclear, but it’s thought that having other people in the room makes baby sleep more lightly, possibly leading to a reduced risk. **
When you actually decide to move your baby to his/her own room is up to you. Some parents like to move their newborns immediately and some like to wait until their child is over one year old. It's good to know that you have options — and you also have cheerleaders (me, yay!) to support you along the way!
If you'd like to start sleep training and your baby is still in your room, reach out! I'd love to help.
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Hi Bonnie, Bailey here! You can definitely transition to the crib and sleep train at the same time. In fact, it’s better to make all the big changes at once so that your baby can get used to their new sleep environment and routines at the same time. If you feel like you need extra support, feel free to let me know at email@example.com
Hi, I’m currently bedsharing with my 3 month old. But I want to start sleep training around 4 months. She won’t sleep in the bedside crib we have, every time I put her down she wakes up and she won’t do drowsy but awake so planning on doing the Ferber method. Can I transition her to the crib and sleep train at the same time? Or do I need to try and transition to the crib first, and if so how? I feel like I’ve tried everything!!!
Bailey Aulenbach dijo:
That’s sounds so challenging. Sleep training can be really hard & isolating. If you feel at any time that you need support, please don’t hesitate to send me an email. I’d be happy to coach you through the process to make this easy on you and your little one.
I have 9 month old son who has slept in my since he was born but now I have a new born on the way in June I need him in his crib I started by just letting him cry it out he made his self throw up 10 mins in soo I just clean him up talked softly and patted him to sleep but In his crib I didn’t take him out at all during this process hopefully he sleeps through the night. We are in the same room but just in a separate bed he should be fine I hope I won’t give up.
Hey Whitney! From working with hundreds of families, I’ve found that transitioning to a bigger bed before the age of 3 usually doesn’t work. If it’s available, I’d recommend putting your 2.5 year old back into the crib until she’s 3.
If you’re still struggling with having her sleep alone, feel free to send me an email and we can chat about some guided support options.
I have a 2 1/2 year old and she has a toddler bed but doesn’t like to sleep in her bed she has to fall asleep in our bed and then us mover her to hers otherwise she cries and will wake up her 6 month old sister and also if she wakes up in the middle of the night she climbs in bed with us